As I sat pondering the colic stage that we recently came out of with our baby girl I was thinking of some of the avenues I tried to use in order to get help. I did a few things.
1. Advice from friends/family/complete strangers aghast at why I can’t keep my baby quiet in the grocery store – Whether asked for or not I got a lot of advice – and since I was pretty at a loss and I’m so new at this I generally listened pretty eagerly. A few things were helpful, such as: this will end! a few things weren’t, such as: just don’t worry about it (really? my child is SCREAMING in my ear and I’m supposed to not worry?)
2. Advice from Internet Forums: When I got the most frustrated I would type things into Google such as: baby won’t stop crying? WHY????. The results were similar to the family/friend/stranger results. Some things were helpful (Be consistent with night time routines), and some things weren’t. I actually read a comment where a woman said that if a child is crying you MUST keep holding/comforting the child at all times, to heck with everything else – were I to follow this advice I don’t believe I would have showered, used the restroom, cooked dinner, cleaned, or pretty much done anything for at least three months time. I have a hard time believing that woman to be the mother of a colicky child, more like some psych major without kids.
3. Ask for Advice and Comfort from the Lord: Honestly, part of this felt like mixed results too. Sometimes, I wasn’t given any special advice from the Lord on what to do. But I was ALWAYS given comfort, and man did it make all the difference.
Have a great General Conference Weekend everyone! And if you don’t get those specific answers you’re looking for, maybe try seeking comfort instead. He’s there. He loves you. He will answer you, just maybe not in the way you want. I’m praying I’ll remember that as I seek some direction for my life and family. :)