“I have long felt that happiness in marriage is not so much a matter of romance as it is an anxious concern for the comfort and well-being of one’s companion.”
– Gordon B Hinckley
I ran across this quote right after watching Sleepless in Seattle for the first time and it really hit a note with me.If you’ve already seen Sleepless in Seattle, just skip the following description.
Sleepless in Seattle is about a widower whose son calls into a psychiatrist’s radio show to say that his dad needs a new wife. The widower tells the psychiatrist about how much he loved his wife and describes how he knew from the first moment that she was “the one”. He says it was like magic. In the meantime Meg Ryan’s character who is engaged to a man she claims to love is questioning her engagement when her grandmother describes her first date with her grandfather and how it was like magic, and she just knew he was the one for her. Meg Ryan’s character hears the widower on the radio and feels he is the one for her and spoiler alert leaves her fiancee, meets him on the top of the empire state building, and we’re left to suppose they all live happily ever after.
I love romantic movies, but I hate when they project that love is only about romance and magical impressions. Those first feelings of attraction are a lot of fun, but when they deepen into anxious concern and selfless service that is SO much better!
Anyway, let me know what you think in the comments, and here’s an extra printable free for noncommercial use.