Homemaking revolution? I think not

Have you heard about the BYU provo student who thinks the term homemaker is outdated? She wants to change it to domain. Yeah, I know, it’s not even a verb.

This whole thing reminds me of the ancient Pueblo People who populated north America from about 500 – 1700 AD (that number changes all the time).

When white people first got to the area, the ancient pueblans were long gone and the people who remained referred to them as the Anasazi. Anasazi literally means “ancient enemy”. But when DNA evidence proved that the modern pueblans were in fact descended from the ancient pueblan’s they became offended at their own term. We are now asked to refer to the Anasazi as Ancient people, or ancient ones.

So I guess that growing up, Alexi thought of homemakers as old, “motherly” women, basically, the term homemaker was pretty synonymous with boring ancient woman in Alexi’s mind. But then something happened, Alexi got older, she may have moved away from home or had friends who got married and began homemaking. So they all became boring and ancient. Alexi doesn’t like being ancient or boring so she created a campaign to get rid of homemaking in leau of domain (it’s killing me to not add an “ing” to the end of that).

Here’s the problem with that Lexi,

Homemaking, unlike Anasazi, never actually meant ancient boring woman, homemaking is a sacred calling. Homemaking is pouring love into your home and life and kids. Yeah, a big part of it is cooking and cleaning and decorating, but it’s also promoting a beautiful spirit. You don’t have to have kids to homemake. You don’t have to be a stay at home mom. You don’t have to be female. You don’t even have to own your home. All you have to do is try to make your living space a comfortable and happy place to be. And frankly, domain doesn’t describe the love that homemaking does. It makes it sound cold and distant, rather than warm and inviting.

I don’t mean to sound overly harsh here, I really don’t. I think the design for your site is gorgeous and l’m positive that you’re intentions were good, but honestly I feel attacked. I feel like your saying, “you’re job title isn’t cool enough – why don’t you change it so that it’s hip and young”.

So for my part, I’m not going to be “donating” to your campaign.

But here’s some link love – maybe some of my readers will disagree with me and join your domain revolution.

What do you think? Make my day and comment.


  1. That’s your GRANDMOTHER in pearls, heels and aprons, Honey, not your Mother (whom, she stressed, had a college education tho she stayed home with the kids). Here is a girl who has had no children and has never been married expressing her “worry” that homemaking will cease to exist because HER generation (author included) thinks it’s “old-fashioned”. ?? So, in a thinly veiled attempt to maybe finance her college education, she decides to rename the term, perhaps as a marketing strategy for a forthcoming book or whatever? Everybody’s got a gimmick.
    Have to admire her ingenuity.

  2. This argument isn’t new. In the 1890’s women argued for rights to vote. The argument for women’s rights in the 1960’s – 70’s were a huge part of my years growing up. It continues on and on. As a well educated woman I must agree with Amber May. Homemaker does have more warmth. There is nothing wrong with being a homemaker. As women we need to not feel guilty for having this title. As a woman who worked as one of very few female engineers and was often the brunt of jokes in the office because I was the lone female I chose to marry, have a family and stay home and raise my children myself. We considered the costs of babysitting etc and felt if we could live within our means we could do it and hopefully our children feel they benefited from this. Does this mean I didn’t continue to learn? No! I continued to do fun science projects with my children and I followed their interests learning new things along the way. That is part of the word “Homemaker”. Domain? This word brings to mind math for me.
    “The domain of a function is the set of “input” or argument values for which the function is defined.” I don’t think this defines what all homemaking entails. I believe the author of this blog has defined it quite well and that you don’t have to be the “old fashioned stay at home” woman to be the homemaker. It is all encompassing.
    This is an interesting topic. Thanks for the post!

  3. Hey Amber,

    I have to say I can actually relate to the thinking that that term “sounds’ a little old fashioned. And here’s the reason why… It’s because not enough women are calling themselves Homemakers. But that doesn’t mean that being a homemaker is boring or outdated. It just means we need to get more women out there to feel the definition of a homemaker is what you’ve described, then they will have the desire to call themselves homemakers.

    I second your definition of a Homemaker! More people should see it as that. Way to go Amber!

    PS- I am a Homemaker. And I am honored and grateful to be one.

  4. Kids these days. They encounter a thought or concept that’s new to them, and think they’ve invented it! So, okay, we’re now in a cultural phase where women are returning to homemaking. Know why? Because the phase before this involved women trying to break away from homemaking. Know why? Because the women before THEM were returning to homemaking after their mothers were trying to get more rights for women. And so it goes.

    Everything old is new again. Homemaking is no exception.